There are no two ways around it: jobs are hard to come by right now. Some fields are so competitive you could go through more than a dozen rejections before getting an interview. Getting passed over can kill your confidence and make finding a job seem impossible.
What's worse is getting into the interview process and fielding a rejection after you've already had a face to face with a company. It's important to stay positive during the job hunt. If you let these confidence killers take over, it can directly affect your body language and composure when you do land an interview, and that could start up a vicious cycle of rejections if employees see you as a depressed and unenthusiastic individual.
Talk it Out
It's normal to experience frustration, disappointment and even anger. Harboring those feelings isn't healthy so talk to a friend or family member. Sharing your feelings in a confidential setting can help you shed the emotions and refresh your brain to get back to it.
Hold your Tongue
In a world that continues to grow socially, everyone is connected to someone else. Avoid saying anything negative about the employer who rejected you. If word travels back, the door is most certainly slammed shut for future possibilities. A rejection now could potentially turn into a job later and you don't want to sabotage your opportunities - whether from that employer or another who could get wind of your comments.
Rejection isn't Personal
Remember that it's all business, it's not personal. The employer isn't rejecting you, they're trying to fill a select number of roles from a large number of candidates. It's likely they simply found a candidate who was (even slightly) a better fit.
Also consider that rejection can sometimes be a good thing. An astute hiring manager could be right in that you're not a good fit for the job. By passing you over they did you a favor by not hiring you. Otherwise you could find yourself in a job that where you're unhappy or unable to perform the full scope of necessary duties.
Reflect on the Rejection
Don't just focus on the "no." Review the hiring process and your approach to see if there was anything you could improve on in the future. Do a deep dive into your resume, the cover letter and especially the interview & your follow up activity to find opportunities for improvement.
Even if you get a rejection, take the time to follow up with the interviewer. Ask them if they could provide insight into their decision - something you said, your actions, what they liked, what they didn't favor during the interview. Asking for direct feedback is a great way to see where you could improve your approach.
Because this is so rare, there's also the chance (though small) that doing so could slip your resume to the top of the stack for the next opening since this approach shows the employer that - despite being rejected - your primary aim is to improve yourself.
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